Gender Reveal Party

This will be my only post this week.  I need a break after all of the suspense from this weekend!  I literally felt like I had run a marathon. Our Gender Reveal Party was so much fun!  We were surrounded by over 30 friends and family who attended the party and streamed in live.  The party was held at Wildflower restaurant.  I love this place.  The staff is wonderful, the food is great, and the atmosphere is lively.  I chose to have the party on the patio, which was perfect.

I placed fuchsia and Tiffany blue boxes filled with miniature Snickers and Hershey’s kisses at each person’s seat.  I don’t like blush pink or baby blue, so my colors were fuchsia and Tiffany blue instead.

Guests were asked to wear pink or blue to cast their vote.  I used a pink bow and a blue bow to designate the votes (boy or girl).  Each guest voted for a boy or girl.  After I cut the cake, I pulled a name from the group that guessed the gender correctly and gave the winner a candle from Bath and Body Works.

The suspense was killing me, and I couldn’t wait to cut the cake.  After everyone placed their orders, we played a game, “Who Knows Mathis and Shayla?”  Everyone received a quiz with 17 questions about us.  This game was so much fun and everyone had hilarious answers.  I gave away two wonderful candles from Bath and Body Works as prizes.

After the game, our food arrived.   When I finished my meal, the cake arrived and I was so nervous that I began sweating allover.  Matt wanted a boy and I wanted a girl.  Matt wanted a boy as our first child, and then a girl for our second.  I gave in and told him that we could agree for a boy first.  So, we have been referring to the baby as “he” for several months.

Well, I guess I am carrying my baby in my face!  My face is a bit larger than normal.

We’re ready to cut the cake!

This part of the party was  of course, the most fun.  However, I was so nervous.  I was sweating allover and my hand was shaking .

You guessed it — the pink filling means, “It’s a girl!”  WE’RE SO EXCITED!  I’m going to have a little princess!  We are so grateful to God for our little bundle of joy.

This plate was actually really beautiful before the top fell over.  The restaurant wrote in chocolate on the plate and added chocolate covered strawberries and mini cookies, which were delicious!

See you next week!




Shayla Jay

Shayla Jay


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  1. Katherine Simpkins

    Congrats! You guys are blessed to have a baby girl and both of you will be awesome parents šŸ™‚ So happy for both of you. We miss you all!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you Katherine!

  2. Kisha McCullum

    Congrats!!! You are going to have FUN shopping.

    • shaylajay

      I know, Kisha! I can’t wait!

      • lisa

        Girl of course she is!!! LOL

  3. Nicole

    Congratulations Sis!!!!!!!!!! I am sooooooo excited!!!!!!!!!!! It’s a girl…Yaaaaay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love yall! MUAH!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you honey! We love you too and we are so excited!

      • lisa

        Me too Nikki!!!!!!!!! All of us in our generation are having girls.

        • lisa

          Congrats you two, I love you!! May God continue to bless you and your new bundle of joy. I’m so happpppppppppppppppy and excitedddddddddddd!!!

          • shaylajay

            Thank you, Lisa! We are excited as well. I could barely sleep after all the excitement this weekend.

  4. Wayne R

    Great! Can’t wait to Spoil SJ.

    • shaylajay

      And Iā€™m sure you will!

  5. Ree'vonne Chamblee'

    See Shayla, on Saturday I said we need a girl and everyone was saying a boy. I stuck to my guns and I was correct. Praise God for your little princess and may your good health continue and your joy increase. Love you guys!

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Miss Ree’vonne!;-)

  6. pl

    Can’t wait for Olivia or Victoria or Shayla, jr.! lol You’ll have so much fun blogging about her fashions! Love you guys!!!! Congrats!!!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you, and Matt and I can’t wait either!

  7. Pamela Wilkins

    Congratulations!!!! I’m so happy for your guys!!!

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Pam! We wish you and Kurt could have been there!

  8. Kimberly Lanier-Lawrence

    Was surprised when I came across your blog this weekend after perusing the internet and had so much catching up on you and your family and your take on fashion. Fabulous blog by the way. It has been over 10 years since I last saw and heard from you (law school days). Congratulations on the many blessings God has placed on you and your family. When I read your prior post I had a deep feeling you were having a girl! Enjoy every bit of being a parent, it is such a joy and the time goes by so fast. Be blessed and Godspeed!

    • shaylajay

      Wow, Kim! It has been a long time. I hope you are well and thanks for your well wishes!

  9. Keeshia

    Congrats! I’m so happy for you and Mathis!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you!

  10. Michelle Cratchan

    Congrats Shayla!! You two will be fabulous together…

    • shaylajay

      Awwww, thanks Michelle. I hope you and your little one are well!

  11. Anonymous

    We are so blessed and happy as we cherish the time as we await the birth of a healthy, beautiful, little princess. We thank God for you, the baby, and Matt. God’s Blessings forever.

    • shaylajay

      Thank you so much for your warm well wishes!

  12. kenard jackson

    Hey Shay Shay! I see you’re doing the right thing. I’m really happy for you cuz. You look sooo beautiful and proud. KEEP ON SHINING.

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Ken! You are so sweet!

  13. Sheree

    YAY! šŸ™‚ This was such a cute idea…

    • shaylajay

      Thanks, Sheree! It was torture. I had been riding around with one of the sealed envelopes from the technician in the car with me for almost a week. My pastor’s wife was making sure I didn’t open it!

  14. Donna

    Congrats Mathis and Shayla. Leave it to Shayla to make revealing the gender of your child so much fun. I hope you like combing hair because that’s the toughest thing about having girls. They are maintenance but they mature so much faster than boys. Love yall.


    • shaylajay

      We love you too, and I was just joking with a friend about my inability to comb hair. This is going to be exciting and interesting!

  15. Christie


    I am so excited for you guys. You look amazing by the way!!

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Christie!!

  16. Katrina


    I’ve never met you but I took a class with your husband. I look forward to your blogs. You bring so much joy and enlightment to your stories. Congratulations on your impending birth. May God continue to richly bless you and Mathis.

    • shaylajay

      Thank you so much, Katrina!

  17. Kejuanda

    Congrats Shayla!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you, Kejuanda!

  18. ichliebedich

    what city and state was this held in? You can also let me know at sounds cool.

  19. Robin E.

    Love it!!!

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Robin! šŸ™‚