Happy Anniversary

On Saturday, October 1, 2011, my husband and I will celebrate our one-year anniversary.  It all began during the Spring of 1996 after I had joined Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and he had joined Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.   He introduced himself as Matt and told me that we were in the same “club.”  This meant we had the same line number in our sorority and fraternity.  I was #4 in my sorority and he was #4 in his fraternity.  I really liked Matt during our college years.  He was handsome and sweet.  Everybody loved Matt and he was very smart.  I like smart guys and was always teased (even at homecoming 10 years later) that I would not go out with a guy who didn’t have a 4.0 GPA.   I wasn’t that strict as I have unfortunately dated some guys who were not smart.

Matt played the snare drum in the band.  We found this picture in 2008 while we were at his parents’ home looking through old photo albums.  I had no idea he kept this picture from so long ago.

Matt and I saw each other for the last time when we both graduated from college.  We did not see each other again until 10 years later during our college Homecoming.  We began catching up immediately, but one of my sorority sisters pulled me away to speak with me.  Matt’s friends also told him they were ready to go to another tailgating event, so we did not have an opportunity to say, “Goodbye.”

I later learned that he came back to the location where we had initially spoken to each other during homecoming, but I had left for the day.  He called my sorority sisters, his fraternity brothers, and anyone else that he thought knew my whereabouts, but to no avail.  About a week later, I was at the university preparing to teach my legal writing class when the professor next door walked in with a note that said, “Please call Matt.”  The paper included his phone number.  He remembered (during our conversation) that I stated I worked at the university, which was one of his clients.  He called the university and the secretary placed the note on my door.   I returned his phone call and we began hanging out.  It’s ironic that I was so smitten with him in college, but I didn’t like him that way when we met 10 years after graduation.  However, there was something  about him — how he treated me and others — that drew me to him again.   All I can say is I am happy I did not let him get away.

Here we are a year later as husband and wife.  On October 1, 2010, we made a vow to love and cherish each other for as long as we shall live.  I am so thankful and grateful to God for my best friend!  For those of you who are still awaiting the man God has for you, continue to put your trust in God.  You never know — he might be closer than you think!


Shayla Jay

Shayla Jay


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  1. Carmen Robertson

    Amen sister! Congratulations! I remember our conversation at my baby shower two years ago.

    • shaylajay

      I remember our conversation too…and now we are married! šŸ™‚

  2. Soror LaRhonda Taylor-Stevemson

    That was a beautiful SU story Soror! I have to tell you mine one day….except mine is a SU/LUS story. Happy Anniversary!!!! I pray you many more to come.

    • Soror LaRhonda Taylor-Stevemson


    • shaylajay

      Thank you LaRhonda! It was just so amazing that we had known each other for so many years and never had a clue we would be married years later! You just never know!

  3. Kendra

    Awwww…..((tears))!!!!!!!!! Soooo Sweet, Congratulations and may God continue to bless your union!!!!!!!!

    • shaylajay

      Kendra, I was actually standing under the AKA tree at Homecoming when he walked over. You know the Alpha tree is right next to ours. A lot can happen under those trees!

  4. Prentice

    From one #4 “club” couple (Karla and I are #4’s too, ironic) to another, Happy Anniversary!!!

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Prentice! That is ironic how all of us ā€œ4ā€²sā€ got married.

  5. Orlando

    Congrats. It is so wonderful to have found your true love and I know you will have Agape love in your marriage. I did not know he was an Alpha. Please tell him to keep holding the LIGHT. I am so happy for you guys take care and stay BLESSED.

    • shaylajay

      Thanks Orlando! I will relay the message to Matt.

  6. Kimberlynn

    This is absolutely awesome! I am a hopeless romantic at heart. I love; love, being in love, giving love, sharing my love and showering my love on others. Happy Anniversary!!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you Kim.

  7. DJ

    Wow! That is such a beautiful story. I got a little teary while reading it. Happy anniversary!!!! May God bless you and Matt forever!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you!!!

  8. L.Piazza

    Awwww… just beautiful!! *tear

    • shaylajay

      We stayed at my favorite place (the Ritz) for our anniversary, and every time a golf cart drove by, Matt would say, “There’s Caroline, Lisa and Nikki!” It was hilarious! You guys were too funny at the wedding.

  9. Mathis Tate

    I am so glad you came to homecoming!

    • shaylajay

      I’m so glad I was at homecoming too. Thank my friend, Daarina, for my presence at homecoming.

  10. TK

    Congrats Soror Shayla! I had no idea you and your husband are clubs, sands, AND Phirst Pham. That’s so wonderful! Take care.

    Terrel K.

    • shaylajay

      Thanks TK!

  11. slgrey

    I love you guys’ story!! Happy Anniversary!

    • shaylajay

      Thank you!