A few days ago, one of my friends appeared frustrated that she was still single and that marriage appeared to be nowhere in sight. For the past two weeks, my pastor has also been preaching specifically to singles. So, I decided that today I am going to talk to my single sisters and brothers. I know this is a fashion/lifestyle blog, but I felt the need to have a little talk. I wasn’t exactly a “spring chicken” (as the old folks used to say) when I got married a few months ago. As a matter of fact, about 90% of my friends were over 30 when they got married. What was so wrong with us? Nothing at all. I made the decision that I would allow God to choose the right person for me. God knew what I wanted and I trusted His decision over my own even though it seemed to take a long time. However, during that time I traveled, enjoyed my family and friends, and lived my life (and continue to live my life) to the fullest. But what do you do when that man or woman of your dreams is nowhere to be found? Oddly enough, I took notes from Cinderella and saw the true beauty in every situation.
I wasn’t locked in the attic and cleaning a house for a living, but like Cinderella, we all can dream (and pray). I always remembered Psalms 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” I knew that if God said it, He would do it. I truly believed His word in my heart.
I also had other options:
1. I could have pressured prior boyfriends into marrying me by threatening to leave if they didn’t marry me, but who wants to spend the rest of their lives married to a man or woman they pressured into marrying them? Who wants to spend his/her life based on an ultimatum? If you don’t know where the relationship is going, it is probably time to get out anyway. I always let a potential mate know in the beginning that I meant business. I knew I wasn’t a kid anymore, so I didn’t play games. If you have to pressure someone to be with you, that is not the person you should be spending the rest of your life with.
2. I could have settled down with a guy that I knew was not God’s best for me and ended up miserable for the rest of my life. Sometimes we delay the man or woman God has for us because we are wasting time with someone that we know is not good for us. How can God bring the right person into your life if you are wasting time with the wrong person?
3. I could wait on God and trust that He knows what is best for me.
Waiting on God is hard sometimes (well, most of the time), but I knew I had to do it. Who you marry is one of the biggest decisions in your life. Who you choose to marry is bigger than buying a house, getting a new job and moving to a new city. It can make the rest of your life joyous or lead you into a life of misery. So take your time and don’t settle because you feel like you’re running out of time. This is when men and women really get into trouble. God knows you and He knows what is best for you.
The most important step you can make on this day is knowing who God says you are. Psalms 139:14 says, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Once you love yourself and allow God to transform the way you see yourself, you can truly love the person God will bring into your life and you will have the wisdom to know when the wrong person is creeping into your life.
I’m sure we can all remember Cinderella’s transformation by the fairy godmother.
Well, my words of wisdom to you are to be open to the transformation that God has for you and allow Him to choose for you. Although it gets difficult sometimes, know that God’s timing is best. Do you remember the end of the story?
…and they lived happily ever after. Wait for the best because that is what God has for you! I’m speaking from experience and not from the pages of a book. Fairy tales do come true when you allow God to choose.
Until next time, continue to pray and believe God for His best!
Thanks Shayla, I needed to read this girl! u r such a blessing!
I am happy you liked the article. I felt it was time to say this. I hate to see people settle when what God has for them is right around the corner.
We needed to hear this.
Thanks for such an inspiring message. Although I am married to a prince, I have to constantly remind myself what God says about all areas of my life. Without His word,I would be lost.
I love it and I needed to hear that message! I will continue to wait on God’s best and stand on His Word. Thanks for sharing!
I agree with you, sj, about allowing God to help you but you have to know what you want in the person so you will notice when Mr. Right does come along. Agree?
100% of the people I talk to know what they want in a person. That’s not the problem. The problem is that most of them don’t want to wait for the right person. As for the people out there who don’t know what they want in a mate, I am almost positive those are probably people who are not concerned about meeting Mr. Right and are not ready for a serious relationship.